Letting go of things is easy but letting go of a marriage is not easy at all. There are social obligations that make you think twice before you walk away from your marriage. We keep on thinking about society and our relatives and our relationship or marriage starts to unravel; the side effects can be seen on everybody be it your kids or other members of family.
Sometimes, it takes years to know that you are living in a stale relationship or your marriage is over. A time comes when you actually realize that your marriage is not working out as it was earlier. By that time, it may be too late.
Common signs of separation
As a couple, when you start fighting with each other on any small or big issues that is an alarm that something is wrong in your marriage. When your spouse starts abusing you in front of kids and the blame game starts and he/she speaks to you disrespectfully then things are not in control at all. Issues of fight are not clear-cut yet that general sense of malaise makes you unhappy then it’s time to consult a marriage counselor or a therapist if you still want to give a try to save your marriage. If all this doesn’t work then it’s a clear indication that time has come to end the relationship.
There are teething troubles in most marriages, but the key point before Divorce is to be able to realize- Id Divorce only Solution or can you salvage Marriage?
Is divorce the only solution?
Start asking questions related to your marriage and what is forcing you to take this step to end your marriage. One thing is for sure, once you get the answers to all the unanswered questions, decision making will be easier for you. In case you have children then divorce is really a drastic step so think twice. Consult your family or somebody who is very close to both of you, may be your common friend, as for kids both the parents are equally important and just for the sake of your betterment, you can’t play with your kid’s future.
Move on, it’s the only way…
Parting is never easy especially from marriage as you both have decided to walk together in any of the situation and now both are choosing their own ways. In case you have decided to go the legal way then ensure things stay private so that it doesn’t affect your child’s life when the process is on.
Try to meet lawyer and discuss about your case. Always try to spend some time with an attorney who specializes in family law to understand your rights legally. Once after acceptance, you decide to move ahead in your life, don’t ever look back and start living in your present because memories from past will always hurt you. Believe in self fulfilling prophecy.