Cordial relations with in-laws-better for men, bad for women

Relationship with in-laws

1st December: Have you ever wondered the impact of your relationship with in-laws on your married life?

Well, a recent study by Michigan Institute for Social Research has found an important clue in this regard.

For men—Good relations with in-laws means happier marriage—According to the author of the study by Dr. Terri Orduch, a research professor at the University of Michigan Institute of Social Research, men having cordial relationship with in-laws can look forward to a happier marriage.

The findings state that the rate of divorce is nearly 20 percent less in marriages of males having good relations with their in-laws. So, here comes a guideline for all married males—improve your relations with your mom-in-law and father-in-law.

Relationship with in-lawsThe study published in The Wall Street Journal suggests men to be closer to their in-laws.

For women—closer to in-laws means route to divorce—The study found that in case of women, it’s the other way round, i.e., women having good relationship with their in-laws are going to have a negative impact on their married life.

According to Dr. Orbuch, the lead author of the study, ties with in-laws are quite stressful for women. And getting closer to in-laws means inviting more interference in their married relationship, she adds. This has a direct affect on the marital bond between the husband and the wife, she maintains in her study.

In general, relationships tend to be more vital and crucial to women, writes Dr. Orbuch. And they are in constant effort to help improvise their marital relations.

Women take in-laws’ interference as personal-So, when the in-laws say anything to their daughter-in-law, she tends to take it as personal, as a sort of interference. In such a scenario, it becomes quite difficult for women to tolerate such interference since they find themselves unable to set the boundaries, affirms the author.

Men don’t—In case of men, any interference by their in-laws is not taken by them as something personal.

Reason? Identity of men as a hubby and as a father is most often secondary to their identity as being a provider. So, they seldom take the meddling by their in-laws so personally.