Is it Real Love or Just an Illusion? Find out!
Since ages, typical romantic flicks have infused the minds of the youth with an intense yearning for ‘happily ever after’ and ‘forever together’. But, what we forget is that there’s a vast difference between reel life and real life. Reel life always projects things that are “larger than life”. In real life, people have to struggle to live and find good friends let alone love.
Real love is rare and it strikes you at the utmost unknown hour. We struggle to discover the flaws in our relationships, our spouses and we struggle to accept them and cope with expectations. Unlike movies, love-birds just don’t bump into each every now and then in real life!
The following few pointers would help you to clarify your vision and know if it’s really love or if you’re deluding yourself into believing something that does not even exist:-
What do you find appealing in him/her?
When you’re out with your boys (friends) or your girlfriends, do you talk a lot about her/him? If yes, then maybe- just maybe- there is something real to it. But, what do you talk about the person you like? Is it about their looks, dressing sense or physical appearance on a whole or do you talk about the traits you like in them or about their likes or dislikes? The former is a total no-no for love. And even if it’s the latter, just ponder over the fact whether it’s because you like him/her that you love those traits or if it’s vice-versa.
In fact you not just need to be sure of your own emotions but you also must be clear about how the other person feels about you and that is what is far more difficult than confronting your own perception and deeper feelings.
Being there for someone and letting them treat you like a doormat are two different things. When you really love someone, you are geared up to go to any extent to render some help to them or bring a smile on their faces. But if you keep on going beyond your limits in hopes of having the other person really see you through or accepting you, you are making a fool out of yourself.
Can you truly accept him/her just the way he/she is?
Love is rightly called blind. When in love, people tend to overlook the flaws in the other person; in fact they help them to grow beyond their latent capabilities. Love means putting their needs before yours and being proud of whoever they are. If you fail at doing so, get a reality check because it’s anything but love.
Many-a-times, what people see as ‘signs’ are merely co-incidences or mostly, truth being told, people read too deep where in actuality it’s nothing much for the doer.
Our perceptions influenced by movies put a veil of misconception and day-dream over the eyes of naïve folks. We just hope that you do not presume the actions of the other person to be something more than what they were intended to be. In the process, you may get hurt and, sometimes, a broken heart can pain a lot all along the way…! Be smart at the matter of your heart too..! 🙂