Building a strong marriage or relationship isn’t easy. It takes as much effort as in any other work that we do. The key to sealing in all the essence of a good marriage is by laying down a strong foundation. The traits planted in the beginning of the relationship will determine whether the marriage would be long-lasting and successful or simply a short-lived disaster.
Even though the popular saying goes that actions speak louder than words, sometimes words are essential for better expression. Verbalize your feelings to your partner and tell them how much you love them. It can go a long way in securing your relationship.
Sharing happiness and joy is with each other is a therapy in itself. As the saying goes, laughter is the best medicine. Laugh with each other and not at each other! It will create a positive atmosphere in the home and boost the positive attitude towards each other. When couples choose laughter over anger or frustration, life will be filled with joy and peace – and that is a choice to be made.
Make your partner feel your love with the small things you do every day. Each couple has their own love language, but here are some you may want to consider:
· Spending time together: Set apart a time, anytime during the day, free from career responsibilities, house-chores and child care, and dedicate it to each other, to do something that would bring you closer.
· Giving and receiving gifts: There is no need to go overboard with expensive gifts. Gifting them little things like trinkets can bring in that surprise element and the gratitude that follows.
· Helping each other: Modern researches say that doing household chores together actually increases the love between spouses and strengthens their bond.
· Small acts of physical intimacy: Holding hands, warm hugs or pecks on the cheek can mean much more than sexual intimacy when the need of the hour is emotional intimacy.
In the words of author and keynote speaker Stephen Covey, “Love is a verb. Love- the feeling- is a fruit of love, the verb”. It is essential to realize that love is not just a feeling, it is an action. Love should not depend on whether the other person deserves it or not, it is unconditional, it is bestowed. The wait for the feeling of love will be eternal and it still might not be felt, so… “Action”!
Share your Mind
It is of utmost importance in a relationship to share everything. Sharing does not imply only the material side; it refers to your emotional state – likes, dislikes, fears, dreams, mistakes and achievements – everything both good and bad. If there is something that bothers you about your spouse, tell him or her instead of going around discussing the matter with the whole world.
A priority not a Duty
Sex in marriage should be a spontaneous act – a culmination of acts of love – and not a scheduled necessity. It should not be an action undertaken because it is there in your timetable. Then it becomes a duty – a mere chore – that takes out the beauty from it. Sex is an important part of any marriage – the union of both the body and the mind. So, be honest about your sex life and share your mood openly so that both the partners can enjoy when it happens.