Any couple in problem prefers to get a third opinion and of course an expert one. They move to a “counselor” or a “psychologist” or even a “therapist” to get a fresh set of vision about their relationship.
However, with the changing times, there has been a change in observing the idea of working on the relationship.
We will see a comparative view of the “traditional strategy of counselling” and the “innovative view” which is gaining popularity with time.
Role of counselor
In a traditional counselling, a couple moves to a counselor and the motive is to express, communicate and share his views about the marital relationship. This gives him or her to vent out and empty up the frustration or pain which he or she has been holding for quite some time now. Thereafter there is a suggestion from the counselor wherein he tries to listen and understand the problem.
In the modern time, the counselor is mostly an active listener who does not only listen to the problems or issues rather try to make a suggestion.
Patch up or break up
In a traditional counselling, the efforts are always made to re-establish the relationship so that a marriage can be saved from being broken. Unfortunately, it has been observed that even if the relationship is repaired, it starts showing traces of problems again after some time, but, in some cases it can survive and get even stronger too. However, in the modern times, the counselor understands the issues and does not try to bring life forcefully to a dying bond.
Get reunited or call it quits
Generally, the counselor tries to make a couple understand that their relationship can still be worked out if the two people in the bond make a sincere effort and this is the crux of traditional way of counselling. On contrary, the modern view does not force any reunion and leaves it to the couple to decide if they want to call it quits.
The winning factor
It is difficult to prove the worth of any of the counselling process between the two mentioned above, yet, to force down by washing the mind of a person to be in a relationship might not work out for life. Hence, the winning factor could be to leave this decision to couple and ask them if they would like to call it quits or would like to give it another try.
No one knows a relationship better than the two people tied in it. If the level of problem is not too grave and deep then one can always convince and make both the individuals understand the worth of being into it, otherwise, there is no point making them be in it against their wish. Any such effort which forces them to do so can be harmful for the two individuals and the sanctity of the relationship as well.