A crisis in life always brings two aspects: danger and opportunity. It largely depends on an individual what is he likely to select and which way is he likely to move.
Infidelity a crisis
Infidelity is certainly a big crisis in a relationship, as it exposes a big threat to a bond which may have been quite long. No matter how old a relationship is, and has strong it is, when a partner comes to know that he has been cheated by his spouse then the reactions are bound to be violent. Even if one does not express his or her anger and keeps it within, the pain and the feeling of being cheated upon cannot be prevented.
Infidelity can lead you the divorce way
When you realize it first that your spouse has been dishonest to you, you may hit the roof, you may think of all weird things, and you would almost take a decision of coming out of the relationship. This means, the next morning you may plan to consult a divorce lawyer and dissolve the marriage. You may not want to stay with this person even for single minute now, and every memory which kept soothing you all these days, will now start to haunt you. You are so determined about your decision that you will land up in the court room crying in pain and telling the judge about the bitter experience you had.
Infidelity can lead you the reconciliation way
After learning that your spouse has untruthful to you, there will be immense pain running through your nerves, but, when you look at the olden days calmly, you may want to change your mind. You may want to reconcile and evaluate the whole situation. And then you may also understand that there have been some mistakes and ignorance form your end too which probably have been responsible for your spouse’s deviation.
You may also conclude that the so called “extra marital affair” was not so much intentional, your spouse never meant to hurt you or ditch you, but it was all at the spurt of a moment when he or she slipped off.
And then you need to take a look at all the efforts which have come from spouse’s end all these years that can certainly not be ignored. If he or she has been a loving spouse, a caring parent then one surely deserves a second chance. Both of you may talk it out and find yourself in an even stronger bond than before.
Infidelity is always associated with a dark shade of life, but, there are couples who have ensured that an incident in life does not derail their relationship. They have taken things forward with a positive note and have taken a pledge to be tied to each other for the rest of their lives. After all breaking takes least of efforts and making is an uphill task, a task which makes your life meaningful.